السعادة الزوجية

Marital Bliss

Sheikh Saalih aal Taalib
 June 15, 2012 ~ Rajab 25, 1433

First Khutbah


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All praise be to Allah. All praise be to Allah the amount that He created and shaped, and established and dispersed. And all praise be to Allah a dominating praise. “He has created man from water, and has appointed for him kindred by blood, and kindred by marriage” [Furqaan; Verse 54]. And I bear witness that there is no god but Allah alone. He has no partner. And I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and messenger, the best of creations without exception. May Allah’s salutations, peace and blessings be upon him and on his family, his companions and those who follow them and those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Judgement.

Thereafter:

Fear Allah – the Exalted – and obey Him. And revere His commands and do not disobey Him. “O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from them both He created many men and women, and fear Allah through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you.” [Nisaa; Verse 1]. He watches your deeds. And He counts your breaths. And He numbers your days.

So if mankind knows that he will be asked about how he spent his life and how he utilized his youth, he will stick to hard work (throughout) his age and he will leave amusement (throughout) his life. “So when you have finished (your occupation) devote yourself for Allah’s worship. And to your Lord (Alone) turn (all your) intentions and hopes.” [Sharh; Verse 7-8].

O Muslims: The family, the house and the marital home is the foundation of the system of Muslim society and its nucleus. And from it is the reformation of the individual and in it is his cultivation. In addition to marriage being a natural inclination, a necessity and a natural human need, in Islam it is also a law and command, a Sunnah and a purity, an entity of which every potential is employed for its establishment, completion and reformation and to protect it from obstacles and disturbances.

And from the goals of Islam and its efforts: The establishment of a family comprising of two spouses (wife and husband); love, mercy and peace flapping in its wings; guided by legislations and instructions; and its individuals complement (it) by fulfilling responsibilities; and from it pious offspring are bred; and children are grown in its care; and its individuals share roles in helping towards goodness and piety, and integration and solidarity in realizing the goals and hopes in this world and in the Hereafter. And that is the philosophy of the family in Islam.

And understanding this natural reality in its Shar’i dimensions determines the features of marital happiness and the features of the building of a pious family. And therefore the coherent society is able to build its civilization after building its individuals and its entity.

And from here comes the importance of the command to marry and encouraging towards it. Allah – Glorified and Majestic – said: “And marry those among you who are single and (also marry)) the Salihun (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty.” [Noor; Verse 32]

And in the pure Sunnah the prophet – peace be upon him – says: “O group of youth! Whoever from among you can marry should do so …” [Hadeeth; narrated by Bukhari and Muslim]

O Muslims: And to build this family entity and its reformation and its protection, Sharee’ah came with a sentence of commands and prohibitions; and etiquettes and commandments; painting for houses features of their happiness and sketching for the family the path of its delight. Muslims are summoned to take it and adopt it, drawing close to Allah – the Exalted – as a protection for their houses and their societies, and reformation for their conditions.

And the need is magnified when there is much negligence, and aggravation of injuries in the houses, and the marital building cracks. And from what is hurtful is that studies and examinations indicate that the rate of divorce in the Arab and Islamic world is no less than 30% and it reaches 40% in some of our countries. These rates are alarming, requiring the initiative of the society with its organizations and individuals for more studies, solutions, plans and programs – with thanks and praise for what the organizations and associations are doing – and the positions and directions which help with regards to the family and its issues.

O Muslims: The features of happiness and success for the family come from the first building, which is choosing and deciding. For character and religion are the path of searching and the secret of happiness. And negligence in considering that is the source of misery. And in the freedom of choice, there is asking permission and seeking counsel. So no man should be compelled to take who he dislikes. And no girl should be forced to accept who she hates.

And in the Quraanic verses and prophetic instructions, there is the light of guidance of the light of what is quoted from it, and (too) from the guidance that which we do not oppose. And enough for us are these snippets and quotes:

Regarding rights and responsibilities: “And they (women) have rights similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them.” And with explaining rights and responsibilities, surely it is not (about) stinginess and accountability, but it is in (the light of) the generous instruction: “And do not forget liberality between yourselves.” [Baqarah; Verse 237]

And with regards to dealings, the prophet – peace be upon him – says: “A good word is charity” [Agreed upon]

And He –peace be upon him – says: “Smiling in the face of your brother is charity for you” [Narrated by Tirmidhi].

And on the authority of Aisha – may Allah be pleased with her – the prophet – peace be upon him – said: “Gentleness does not enter anything except that it beautifies it and harshness does not enter anything except that it disfigures it.” [Narrated by Muslim]

Verily gentleness, good words, pardoning and forgiving is better than gifts with bounties and bad dealings, and in the Beloved Revelation: “Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than charity followed by injury.” [Baqarah; Verse 263]

Servants of Allah: And it is not from justice: Requesting rights while neglecting the fulfilling of obligations. For verily, the one who said: “If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands” is the one who said: “O Allah I declare inviolable the rights of the two weak ones: the orphans and the women” and it is he who said: “Treat the women kindly.

And verily the one who said: “The best of you is the best of you to his family”, he – peace be upon him – is the one who said: “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her private parts and obeys her husband, it will be said to her ‘Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.

And regarding the richness of the heart and foresight and a good comparison, the prophet – peace be upon him – says: “A believing man should not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes something in her character, he should be pleased with some other or another trait of hers” [Narrated by Muslim]

And in this regard Allah – Glorified and Majestic – said: “And live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” [Nisaa; Verse 19]

And regarding administration: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.” [Nisaa; Verse 34]. And maintenance is not domination and abuse, and not oppression and looking down upon another, but it is care and protection, and establishing interests. And surely the call to the opposite of that, calling towards equality or freedom is the heart of primitiveness and an opposition to nature.

O Muslims: Piety, truthfulness and trust are the best (things) that relationships are built upon. And this noble character is a spring for the heart, a purification of the habitus, and fruit of generosity, and bravery of the conscience, for surely the prophet – peace be upon him – said: “I order you to be truthful for verily truthfulness leads to righteousness and verily righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man continues to be truthful and strives for truthfulness until he is written as a truthful person by Allah. Beware of lying, for verily lying leads to sinning and verily sinning leads to the Fire. And a man continues to tell lies and strives upon lying until he is written as a liar by Allah.” [Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim]

As for trust and protecting marital secrets, it is compulsory. It protects the homes and cares for families. On the authority of Abu Sa’eed al Khudriyy – may Allah be pleased with him – the messenger of Allah – peace be upon him – said: “Among the worst people in Allah’s sight on the Day of Judgement: The man who has conjugal relations with his wife and she with him, and then he divulges her secret.

And the warning is for the man and woman alike.

O you men and women: O you who are searching for happiness in this world and the Hereafter! The composition of happiness is in the saying of Allah – Glorified and Majestic – : “Whoever works righteousness – whether male or female – while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter).” [Nahl; Verse 97]

Surely this meaning is more worthy of care and propagating instead of people’s pre-occupation with what destroys and does not build regarding the affairs of the family and the society. Reformers and advisors, and those who control pens and the media should care greatly for the reformation of the family and its stability and to establish the houses and strengthen its building and to ward off everything that affects it (negatively).

And Allah is asked to preserve for the Muslims their religion and security and to reform their conditions and to make happy their lives.

May Allah bless me and you in the Book and the Sunnah and benefit us from what is in them of verses and wisdom. I say these words of mine and I ask Allah – the Exalted – to forgive me and you.

Second Khutbah

Al praise be to Allah. All praise be to Allah, the Strong, The Able. And He – Glorified is He – is The Mighty, The Helper. And I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, the True Omnipotent King. And I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and messenger. May Allah’s salutations, peace and blessings be upon him, and on his family, companions and those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Judgement.

Thereafter:

The blood is still flowing oppressively on the soil of Syria. And the massacres are committed in front of the hearing and sight of the world. Neither religion nor (good) character deters the committing of it. And surely Allah has permitted for those who are fought against and oppressed that they have the right of defense of themselves. And in some cases, admonition and advice is futile.

For you is Allah, O Levant (Shaam). This era has not witnessed a people ruled by their enemy as the Levant has witnessed. Its government has ruled over it as an enemy, and administrated its affairs as an executioner, and has dealt with its dealings as a butcher and what a butcher?! The massacres of its despot almost make the massacres of the Qarmatians and Tartars forgotten. Mercy has diminished in their hearts, and humanity has evaporated from their actions. And the slaughter of women and children have become part of their requests, and the destruction of the land (has become) part of their wishes.

May Allah curse them, the curse of Aad and Thamud, and kill them, the killing of the people of the trenches, and hasten on their tyrant days of misfortunes and blackness, and deliver them quickly to the darkness of the graves.

And it is compulsory upon the world to fulfill its responsibilities in the face of this catastrophe, the duration of which is prolonged, and the pain of which is continuous. And the responsibility is greater on the Arabs and Muslims especially, so they should call for the helping of the oppressed, and warding off of the oppressor, and the solution should be practical and immediate, for the days are not increasing the aggressor except in slogans and nothing is seen from him except hell and fire.

O Syrians: “Permission to fight is given to those who are fought against, because they have been wronged; and surely Allah is Able to give them victory.” [Hajj; Verse 39]. Surely the thief government has overstepped in oppression, and this is an announcement of a close relief. And oppression is an announcement of the passing away of kingship and hastening in punishment, so be happy: “Help from Allah (against your enemies) and a near victory.” [Saff; Verse 13]

And surely Allah ensures ease with difficulty. Two signs of victory have joined for you. Defend with everything you are able to, and place your trust in Allah for He does not disappoint the one who depends on Him. And surely you have seen the betrayal of nations and their leagues.

Verily the tyrant has pledged repeatedly that the protests are the exchange for their tyranny. Thereby they have betrayed their omens and belied their thoughts and gathered your matters and united your rows. And fear Allah with regards yourselves and your families. “So fear Allah and adjust all matters of difference among you” [Anfaal; Verse 1] “It may be that Allah will restrain the evil might of the disbelievers. And Allah is Stronger in Might and Stronger in punishing.” [Nisaa; Verse 84]

Perhaps Allah will restrain the evil might for you, and ward off evil for you.

This, and send salutations and peace on the chosen prophet and selected messenger.

O Allah send salutations, peace and blessings on Your servant and messenger Muhammad, and on his good pure family and his companions, the fortunate personalities.

O Allah be pleased with the guided leaders and rightly guided Khulafa: Abu Bakr, Umar, Uthman and Ali and with all the rest of the companions of Your prophet and those who follow their approach and follow their way, O Lord of the worlds.

O Allah grant honour to Islam and the Muslims…

 

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